Learn to admit your mistakes before someone exaggerates your story!
You are the author of your own life story never let anyone tell your story based on reading just a few chapters of your life. They may come in on your intro (no one can ever tell how good a story will be based on the first chapter), they may come on the middle part (just getting to figure yourself out chapter) or they may come in on the ending (never knowing what caused you to behave in the manner that you do). Even the best stories have errors but that never stops you from continuing on especially if you like the book. Never allow a mistake to define how your story will continue.
We live in a world that you can do so many things right and no one notices but when you step outside of the norm and make a mistake it becomes news worthy. Life will always be full of mishaps because those are character building moments but never allow someone to exaggerate your story! Admit when you are wrong and move on. Never let people continue to remind you about a chapter that you have passed already. Remember that is the end of that chapter not the end of your story. Mistakes should make you grow! Mistakes should teach you! Mistakes do not define you! Mistakes are a part of life! Mistakes are forgivable!
If you have someone in your life that will constantly remind you of what you use to be then it is time to close not only that chapter in your life but shut the BOOK and revisit the library!
“Reflect on your present blessings–of which every man has many–not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” Charles Dickens
Did it matter that my car did not start? Did it matter that I over drafted my account a few times? Did it matter that I did not have enough money to pay my bills? Did it matter that at times you wondered if you could feed your family? Did it matter that I did not speak to that person? Did it matter that I did not apologize and I knew I was wrong? Did it matter that I was holding unforgiveness in my heart? Did it matter that I said yes and really wanted to say no? Did it matter that I judged you based on my preconceived notions or past hurts? Did it matter that I knew you were hungry and did not offer you food? Did it matter that I was tired of being everything for everyone? Did it matter that I felt you were using me but I still stayed around? Did it matter that I said I loved you when I knew that I hated you inside? Did it matter I cried and no one cared? Did it matter that people would rather leave you then apologize for being wrong? Did it matter that I treated you fair and you did me wrong? Did it matter that I laughed at you? Did it matter that you talked about me? Did it matter that words hurt and can not be taken back? Did it matter that you were more of a foe than a friend? Did it matter that I did not spend as much time with the people that I love? Did it matter that I was more dedicated to my job than I was to my family? Did it matter that you ignored someone but always called when you needed something? Did it matter that people walked away that you thought would never leave you? Did it matter that you forgave someone and they hurt you again? Did it matter that you were not perfect? Did it matter that you wish you would have handled that situation differently? Did it matter that you were screaming inside and no one could hear you? Did it matter that you felt all alone in a room full of people? Did it matter that you were mad at the world and no one understood? Did it matter that you were going through a storm and you thought no one cared? Did it matter that people overlooked you? Did it matter that you murmured and complained and things did not change? Did it matter that your heart was broken into pieces numerous times and you still had to carry on like nothing ever happened?
We can all relate to one or more of the “did it matter questions” but at the end of the day what really matters. Did is a past tense word and what really matters is that living in the past will never prepare you for the future!
Make the best of everyday! Live more! Love more! Give more! Forgive more! Hug more! Laugh more! Smile more!
I was sitting looking out the window and saw a large black spider just hanging. It wasn’t moving or doing anything from a distance. I sat and thought “why is that spider just hanging there seemingly doing absolutely nothing?” From a distance that’s what it looked like! I decided to get up and look a little closer and I was amazed! I couldn’t see how creative the spider was being from a distance but when I got closer to the window I could see the most detailed web. So the spider was resting after creating! It was a lesson in life on how we judge people on what we see as a lack of creativity because we look at them from a distance. Take the time to get closer to people so you can see everything is not what you think it is!